The 1999 song "Make Yourself" by Incubus has kept it's rightful place in my list of favorite songs of all time for almost 20 years. It's stayed on my list that long (and probably won't ever leave) because it's universal. But more importantly, it feels like both a humbling message from the past and wisdom from the future.
As I grow and change through all of my moves, career changes, loves, losses, and ever-changing music tastes, Make Yourself keeps making more sense of my life and inspiring me to unapologetically, be myself.
Offered as our weekly inspiration at Golden Rhino, here's a bit of Incubus' amazing lyrics, and a few of my own thoughts and feels sprinkled in.
"If I hadn't made me, I would have been made somehow. If I hadn't assembled myself, I'd have fallen apart by now."
It's a reminder. If I don't choose who I am, what I stand for, and where I want to be, it's too easy to let someone else decide it. Without the perfect imperfections of being my authentic self, I will eventually fall apart and have to re-start again with more courage and truth. Authenticity is the only glue that sticks forever.
"If I hadn't made me, I'd be more inclined to bow. Powers that be would have swallowed me up, but that's more than I can allow."
Again, it's a reminder. I've chosen to leave jobs, relationships, cities, and habits when their toxicity threatened to swallow me up. I can't allow it, and I can't forget how good it feels to move on and away.
"You should make amends with you, if only for better health. But if you really want to live, why not try and make yourself?"
I will never stop trying to make amends with my mistakes, weaknesses, fears. I will notice them, find a way to accept them, and celebrate my strength as I live through them and with them. I will make myself. Be myself. Really LIVE. Here and now.