If there's one thing you can rely on, it's that you are always changing—changing from minute to minute, day to day, year to year. You changed before and you are changing now.
Whether it's the things you like to eat, the way you wind down after work, the shape of your body, the clothes you wear, the friends you want to hang out with, or the inconveniences that you are willing (or not willing) to tolerate, you can be sure that you will keep changing over time, in both subtle and drastic ways.
I'm realizing in my thirties that I need to check in every few months and see what's different in Me (Version: 3.0) versus Me (Version 2.3 or 2.9). Why, you ask? What was important, comfortable, or loving before may now be anxiety-ridden, exhausting, or just simply unnecessary.
Take me, for example:
- I used to tolerate having close relationships with people who were depressed or angry all the time, and now I will only keep you in my inner circle if you are positive, generally cheerful, or easy to be around. I'm sensitive. It's not personal.
- I used to be really strict on my diet, and pay a lot of close attention to everything I had to eat. Now I don't worry about it all that much, and I let myself do more of what feels good. I like it this way.
- I used to pririotize my passions, then I let myself get distracted for a couple years, and now I'm getting back to a passion-driven life again. I'm trying not to judge myself too hard for getting off track.
Take some time this week. Check in with you, #DOYOU, and stop saying yes to shit you hate.